How do you solve a problem like low desire & mismatched desire?
Imagine approaching sex with joy instead of dread and anxiety.
Imagine having the skills to confidently know and express your desire, even if it's different to your partners'.
- What if I told you, you could boost your libido by making a few simple changes?
- What if you knew that everything we believe about desire is a lie?
- What if you actually discovered the confidence you long for in your authentic sexual expression?
- What if I told you that your struggles are not your fault and there are a multitude of solutions?
If you're thinking YES PLEASE - this is the course for you!
I know the struggles you're facing in your relationships. You want to feel lighter. You want to revamp your libido and overcome mismatched desire in your relationship. You want less struggle and more connection. You want to feel confident and playful. You want to know how to feel inspired about sex. You want to sustain a passionate sex life. You want techniques and strategies to overcome low libido and boost your sexual desire. You want to make sex easy!
The Desire Series is a comprehensive, inspiring and practical online go-at-your-own-pace home study course. It's for individuals and couples ready to tackle the self-doubt, awkwardness and embarrassment of exploring erotic desire. In The Desire Series, you're supported step-by-step in creating a dynamic erotic template that gets you where you want to go - and stay there.
You will be carefully guided through facts and myths about low libido and learn how the false ideas we believe about sex, actually stop us having the fulfilling passionate lives we want. You’ll learn how and why desire dwindles in relationships and how to change it. The Desire Series will teach you what you most need to learn to transform your relationship and ignite your passion.
Whether you are the higher desire or the lower desire partner, The Desire Series offers you a crucial and detailed process to dissolve the barriers that are preventing your eroticism from finding its expression.
Perhaps this is familiar....
Lynn and Rowan walked into my office one evening after a busy work day. Lynn flopped onto the leather sofa and crossed her legs. Her energy was heavy and expectant. As such consultations go, she explained to me that Rowan was a great guy and their lives and relationship were ‘pretty good’. In fact, she mentioned it several times, as clients often do when they really, really want me to know something. Swinging her shoe back and forth from her toe, she breathed a weighty, troubled sigh. And before she uttered another word, tears welled in her eyes. She apologized for this, as for her, the teary response seemed disproportionate to what she was about to tell me. After all, sex isn’t a big deal, it certainly doesn’t justify tears.
Except for when it does.
Rowan looked down at the floor. Partly ashamed and partly overwhelmed, he seemed familiar with this tableau – and for no reason other than experience, so was I. Here were two lovers, strangers to me, but not to each other, stuck in a bind around sex that is all too common.
“I love him and I love our relationship but I’m just not feeling ‘it’ anymore” she said.
“I’m not sure how much longer I can do this – like this”.
“Do what?” I inquired
“Our relationship – the sex I mean. I just don’t want it any more. I used to love sex, I used to really look forward to it, but something has died within me. It’s breaking Rowan’s heart.”
“It looks most certainly like it’s breaking yours too” I replied. Lynn was visibly distressed by the current situation with her sex life. “What does it say about you that you feel like this?” I inquired.
More tears came and she raised her hands to her face to cover the pain she felt. “I feel broken, defective. I shouldn’t be feeling like this, but yet – I do.”
“What’s broken”? I whispered to her gently. “What’s defective?” She looked confused because I didn’t immediately concur that she was the problem.
The Desire Series helps demystify erotic desire by making it part of your everyday life. It offers you tried and tested transformational wisdom and skills to stop struggling and start loving.
I get it. Most people feel incredibly alone when they’re struggling with low desire and a lagging sex life. When you're 'in' it, it's easy to believe everyone else is having better sex than you, and even more sex than you. When resentment starts to build you feel even more awkward addressing sex and taking the steps toward change feels even harder. Deciding to make a change feels BIG. You feel that if you don’t want sex, there is something wrong; then you feel broken or damaged in some way. You become afraid that it may spell disaster for your relationships or it will change the way your partner/s feel about you. You believe that sex is straight-forward. You're horny - so you have sex, right? That being in the mood is essential to having great sex and wanting it all the time. So when you don't experience it this way it's easy to think you are the problem.
So many people think they're defective because for them, the mood never or rarely comes. I know this feeling. I've been one of these people too. But the truth is desire is not about luck and just being in the mood. It's about knowledge, wisdom & strategy.
In The Desire Series you will:
- Learn how desire works for you and your partner/s
- Dissolve unhelpful ideas about sex that are stifling your curiosity and inspiration
- Discover meaningful erotic values and permission-granting strategies that orient you both toward more pleasure
- Explore a multitude of ways to share your discoveries with lovers and partners even if your desires seem to be worlds apart
- Practice techniques for understanding and managing mismatched desire in relationships
- And recognize it’s perfectly OK to have no desire for sex, yet still explore a rich and fulfilling playful connection with your beloved/s.
This 18 module video course plus integrative worksheets gives you full access to the techniques I use with my clients transforming low desire and mismatched libido. This work is POWERFUL and potent. The entire video program, plus comprehensive worksheets is the equivalent of 6 months of intensive coaching with me. That's right! 6 months! I have already helped countless people across the world create richer erotic connections with my in-person sessions. Now you can experience that too, for a fraction of the cost.
I have researched low desire and mismatched libido for over 10 years and I am absolutely certain of my methods and techniques, that when applied, are assured to transform low libido and increase your connection! No gimmicks. No hacks. Sustainable, practical and doable strategies you can start TODAY.
Whether you are curious about desire, struggle with low desire or are in relationship with mismatched desires, the 18 pre-recorded video modules and dozens of worksheets are designed specifically to help you:
- explore what desire really means to you and why this is essential in your quest to unlock passion
- learn to approach mismatched desires with confidence in ways that works for your relationship/s, no matter how long you've been together or what you're into
- discover how to solve the inevitable challenges that arise when exploring mismatched desire
- understand the role of risk-taking and how to hold yourself and your relationship close while maintaining boundaries and self care
- feel pleasure and ecstasy in your relationships even when your erotic desires aren't perfectly matched
Like with anything worthwhile, if we want to master something, we need to invest in it. To learn it. Practice it and dedicate some time to it. Sex is one of those things.
This is a program for people ready to tackle the discomfort of mismatched desire and rise to the challenge of rebooting your sex life. Even if your partner is not yet on board, you can start alone as the process is an invaluable complement to expanding your erotic intelligence. This course explores the known science and theory behind desire and also the esoteric knowledge of how to embrace your unique desire blueprint.
The techniques I share I didn’t learn in therapy school. In therapy school, you never talk about lust and passion. You never talk about desire. And you never talk about eroticism. This is why most therapists know nothing about sex and even fewer know about pleasure.This is why I made The Desire Series.
Most of these techniques I have learned from my hundreds of clients and thousands of hours in the chair (and a few in the bed too). I've studied what works. Exploring options and understanding that science alone is just the tip of the iceberg.
What research and science both confirm is strategy is key to maintaining desire, but without a clear path, without clear skills and without a shared vision – what’s the point?
But this program is not for everyone.
If you have experienced lifelong 'no desire' or feel you may be on the asexual spectrum, this program may not be for you.
If you are seriously on the edge of divorce, separation and chronic arguments, this course is not for you. This course is for people still in love or in like, who want to want sex again and have just lost their way.
Right now, you have two options...
You can continue as you have been, hoping things will get better, avoiding the frustration, underwhelm and disappointment of 'business-as-usual' sex or you can make the decision to do something different, to learn more about how to explore desire with confidence and support. Suitable for all genders, levels of interest and orientations. If you long to reclaim your erotic vitality, join me for The Desire Series.
I’m Cyndi Darnell internationally renowned clinical sexologist, sex and relationship therapist, sex coach and educator. My work has been featured around the world on TV, radio and print media including international publications like The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, The Huffington Post, The Guardian, Vice, Mind Body Green, Bustle, Cosmo and so many more.
I have spent over 20 years studying and exploring human sexuality, pleasure, connection, emotions and relationships, not to mention having my own fair share of experiences along the way. It’s the culmination of this work that has lead me here to create this online school for you.
So many of us get no sex education, limited sex education or simply do not know how to integrate the information we find about sex online. Many of us have no one to talk to about this stuff and some of us don’t feel comfortable even discussing this with our partners. There is still a stigma about seeing a sex therapist or asking for help because we are expected to just magically know how sex works, as if sex is natural and everything we need to know gets downloaded by magic with no effort on our part at all. But none of this is true. Just like learning to paint, draw or cook, we must learn from someone who knows more than we do, at least to get us started on new techniques.
Imagine approaching sex with same curiosity and excitement you feel about taking a new class instead of dread or awkwardness. Imagine having the skills to be able to really understand yourself, your body and your partner’s body and truly share that with another.
Like with anything worthwhile, if we want to master something, we need to invest in it. To learn it. Practice it and dedicate some time to it. Sex is one of those things. Right now you have two options. You can continue as you have been, hoping things will get better, avoiding the frustration, underwhelm and disappointment of 'business-as-usual' sex or you can make the decision to do something different, to learn more about sex, pleasure desire, touch, the body and so much more.
I am super excited to have these offerings for you and I look forward sharing my knowledge and expertise to help you create a life worth loving.