How do you solve a problem like low desire or mismatched desire in relationships?
- What if I told you, you could boost your libido by making a few simple changes?
- What if you knew that everything we believe about low libido is wrong?
- What if I told you that with a few tweaks you could increase your sex drive?
- What if I told you that everything we believe about passion is wrong and your struggles are not your fault?
- Imagine approaching sex with the same joy you experience when planning a vacation or a night out, instead of dread and anxiety.
- Imagine having the skills to be able to really understand yourself, your body and your partner’s body and truly share that with them.
- Imagine feeling that sparkle and connection in your life and relationships again.
- Imagine having the tingling feeling in your belly like you did at the start of your relationship
If you're like most people I work with, you're wondering "What the heck has happened to my libido?" You want to feel lighter. You want to revamp your low desire. You want less struggle and more connection. You want to feel confident and playful. You want to know the secrets to supercharge your sex drive & sustain a passionate sex life. Your want techniques and strategies to overcome low libido and boost your sexual desire. You want to make sex easy!
The Desire Series is a comprehensive and practical online go-at-your-own-pace home study course for individuals and couples that will help you develop a helpful reliable and sustainable relationship with your sex drive.
You will be guided step-by-step through facts and myths about low libido and also discover ways of understanding your own desire to help you feel more in tune with your experience. You’ll learn how and why desire dwindles in relationships and what you can do about it. The Desire Series will teach you what you most need to learn to transform your relationship with low libido.
Whether you are the higher desire or the lower desire partner, The Desire Series offers you crucial and detailed information about understanding, managing and communicating about passion and desire.
Perhaps this is familiar....
Lynn and Rowan walked into my office one evening after a busy work day. Lynn flopped onto the leather sofa and crossed her legs. Her energy was heavy and expectant. As such consultations go, she explained to me that Rowan was a great guy and their lives and relationship were ‘pretty good’. In fact, she mentioned it several times, as clients often do when they really, really want me to know something. Swinging her shoe back and forth from her toe, she breathed a weighty, troubled sigh. And before she uttered another word, tears welled in her eyes. She apologized for this, as for her, the physical response seemed disproportionate to what she was about to tell me. After all, sex isn’t a big deal, it certainly doesn’t justify tears.
Except for when it does.
Rowan looked down at the floor. Partly ashamed and partly overwhelmed, he seemed familiar with this tableau – and for no reason other than experience, so was I. Here were two lovers, strangers to me, but not to each other, stuck in a bind around sex that is all too common.
“I love him and I love our relationship but I’m just not feeling ‘it’ anymore” she said.
“I’m not sure how much longer I can do this – like this”.
“Do what?” I inquired
“Our relationship – the sex I mean. I just don’t want it any more. I used to love sex, I used to really look forward to it, but something has died within me. It’s breaking Rowan’s heart.”
“It looks most certainly like it’s breaking yours too” I replied. Lynn was visibly distressed by the current situation with her sex life. “What does it say about you that you feel like this?” I inquired.
More tears came and she raised her hands to her face to cover the pain she felt. “I feel broken, defective. I shouldn’t be feeling like this, but yet – I do.”
“What’s broken”? I whispered to her gently. “What’s defective?” She looked confused because I didn’t immediately concur that she was the problem.
All too often the sex advice we receive from well-meaning friends, lovers, clinicians and media remind us that sex is ‘natural’, and if we struggle with it, it’s because we are doing it wrong. By osmosis we believe that sex, and relationships by association, need no attention in order to thrive. That they, unlike everything else in life, exist without us needing to attend to them beyond showing up and hoping for the best. But for anyone who’s ever had sex or experienced any kind of complication or contradiction between how they think sex should be and how they experience it, they know that the alleged simplicity of sex, is a lie.
The Desire Series offers you tried and tested transformational wisdom and skills to stop struggling and start loving. Most people feel incredibly alone when they’re struggling with their sex life. When you're 'in' it, it's easy to believe everyone else is having better sex than you, and even more sex than you. When resentment starts to build you feel even more awkward addressing sex and taking the steps toward change feels even harder.
Like all of us, you feel that if you don’t want sex, there is something wrong; then you feel broken or damaged in some way. You become afraid that it may spell disaster for your relationships or it will change the way your partner/s feel about you.
You believe that sex is straight-forward. You're horny - so you have sex, right? Isn't that how it's always been? Or how it should be? That desire (the mental component – being ‘in the mood’) must come before arousal (the physical component, being hard, wet, engorged, turned on) and end in orgasm. So when you don't experience it this way it's easy to think you are the problem.
So many people think they're defective because for them, the mood never or rarely comes. I know this feeling. I've been one of these people too. But the truth is desire is not about luck and just being in the mood. It's about knowledge, wisdom & strategy.The Desire Series is a comprehensive and practical course that will help you develop a helpful reliable and sustainable relationship with desire. You will be guided step-by-step through facts and myths about desire, and also discover ways of understanding your own desire to help you feel more in tune with your experience. You’ll learn how and why desire dwindles in relationships and what you can do about it. The Desire Series will teach you what you most need to learn to take back your relationship with libido.
This go-at-your-own-pace course gives you full access to the techniques I use with my clients navigating low libido. The entire video program, plus comprehensive worksheets is the equivalent of 6 months of coaching with me. Yes! 6 months!
I have researched low desire for over 10 years and I am absolutely certain of my methods and techniques, that when applied, are assured to change your relationship with desire forever!
You can continue as you have been, hoping things will get better, avoiding the frustration, underwhelm and disappointment of 'business-as-usual' sex or you can make the decision to do something different, to learn more about low desire, supercharged sex, pleasure, touch, the body and so much more
This is a program for people who have an interest in understanding the delicious, quirky and frustrating elements of sexual desire. It’s for people who are curious, enthusiastic or willing to explore themselves to see what they find there. This course explores the known science and theory behind low libido and also the esoteric knowledge of desire’s ways that makes it so unique to each of us. We will examine what drives our own desire and also consider the most common blockages to accessing this powerful energy. Learn what it means and what to do when desire drops, and explore some of the distractions that can take us off into unhelpful directions when getting to know desire in ourselves and in others.
I’m Cyndi Darnell internationally renowned clinical sexologist, sex and relationship therapist, sex coach and educator. My work has been featured around the world on TV, radio and print media including international publications like The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, The Huffington Post, The Guardian, Vice, Mind Body Green, Bustle, Cosmo and so many more.
I have spent over 20 years studying and exploring human sexuality, pleasure, connection, emotions and relationships, not to mention having my own fair share of experiences along the way. It’s the culmination of this work that has lead me here to create this online school for you.
So many of us get no sex education, limited sex education or simply do not know how to integrate the information we find about sex online. Many of us have no one to talk to about this stuff and some of us don’t feel comfortable even discussing this with our partners. There is still a stigma about seeing a sex therapist or asking for help because we are expected to just magically know how sex works, as if sex is natural and everything we need to know gets downloaded by magic with no effort on our part at all. But none of this is true. Just like learning to paint, draw or cook, we must learn from someone who knows more than we do, at least to get us started on new techniques.
Imagine approaching sex with same curiosity and excitement you feel about taking a new class instead of dread or awkwardness. Imagine having the skills to be able to really understand yourself, your body and your partner’s body and truly share that with another.
Like with anything worthwhile, if we want to master something, we need to invest in it. To learn it. Practice it and dedicate some time to it. Sex is one of those things. Right now you have two options. You can continue as you have been, hoping things will get better, avoiding the frustration, underwhelm and disappointment of 'business-as-usual' sex or you can make the decision to do something different, to learn more about sex, pleasure desire, touch, the body and so much more.
I am super excited to have these offerings for you and I look forward sharing my knowledge and expertise to help you create a life worth loving.