What to Do With What You Find

Erotic Massage Basics

So you know what's down there, but you don't know how to touch it.

Imagine confidently navigating your way around your own body or your partner's body?

Imagine knowing what feels good and how to do it?

In this stand alone video from the full Atlas of Erotic Anatomy & Arousal (AEAA) , Cyndi guides you through her mini intro to learning how to touch like you mean it!

Bring pleasure to your body and your partner's body without racing like a hare, only to find you had it wrong the whole time. This tortoise-level pleasure tutorial brings the milkshake to the yard.

Apply the knowledge from the previous AEAA modules into a practical massage session. A gentle introduction to er0tic massage for vulvas and penises, this video is recommended for viewing after watching the others in the AEAA series.


Your Instructor


Cyndi Darnell
Cyndi Darnell

I’m Cyndi Darnell internationally renowned clinical sexologist, sex and relationship therapist, sex coach and educator. I'm the author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire

My work has been featured around the world on TV, radio and print media including international publications like The New York Times,The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, The Huffington Post, The Guardian, Vice, Mind Body Green, Bustle, Cosmo and so many more.

I have spent over 20 years studying and exploring human sexuality, pleasure, connection, emotions and relationships, not to mention having my own fair share of experiences along the way. It’s the culmination of this work that has lead me here to create this online school for you.

So many of us get no sex education, limited sex education or simply do not know how to integrate the information we find about sex online. Many of us have no one to talk to about this stuff and some of us don’t feel comfortable even discussing this with our partners. There is still a stigma about seeing a sex therapist or asking for help because we are expected to just magically know how sex works, as if sex is natural and everything we need to know gets downloaded by magic with no effort on our part at all. But none of this is true. Just like learning to paint, draw or cook, we must learn from someone who knows more than we do, at least to get us started on new techniques.

Imagine approaching sex with same curiosity and excitement you feel about taking a new class instead of dread or awkwardness. Imagine having the skills to be able to really understand yourself, your body and your partner’s body and truly share that with another.

Like with anything worthwhile, if we want to master something, we need to invest in it. To learn it. Practice it and dedicate some time to it. Sex is one of those things. Right now you have two options. You can continue as you have been, hoping things will get better, avoiding the frustration, underwhelm and disappointment of 'business-as-usual' sex or you can make the decision to do something different, to learn more about sex, pleasure desire, touch, the body and so much more.

I am super excited to have these offerings for you and I look forward sharing my knowledge and expertise to help you create a life worth loving.


Course Curriculum


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